5 ways to be a good audience member
Several years ago, some of my friends came to see me in an orchestral concert. I was touched that they shlepped all the way over to support me, since not all of them were classical music lovers. They were, however, nice friends. Unfortunately, sitting directly in front of my friends were a group of women who talked throughout the entire performance. What a shame!
While most people have the common courtesy to not talk through an entire performance, attending a performance does require a certain etiquette. The following guidelines can be applied to any event where there is a performer, be it speaker, lecturer, teacher, etc., and an audience.
1. Cell phone off. Don’t just assume it’s off, double-check. I’m always nervous that there is some unknown feature (since I really only use my phone for phone calls) which will make noise, so I completely power down. Like I’m on an airplane. There was a video class I attended once where there were at least six cell phones which went off during the lecture, even after many requests to silence them, including an appeal from the moderator, who was clearly dying of embarrassment.
2. Save the chit-chat for the end. Was there something which you really enjoyed? Great! Make a mental note and tell your friend about it later. Or, if you don’t always remember things so well (like me), bring a notepad and take notes.
3. Know when (and when not) to clap. For classical music concerts, the program will usually list the number of movement for a piece. It’s customary not to clap until all the movements are finished. Sometimes movements run into one another, in which case, you may not be able to tell how many movements have passed. The safest method is to wait until the majority of the audience is clapping, and then join in. In other venues, it’s acceptable and even encouraged to clap after a soloist. For a jazz, and other more relaxed genres, this works.
4. Show the performer that you are engaged. Make eye contact. Smile. Close your eyes and gently rock your head side-to-side. Do something to show that you have a pulse. It’s lonely on stage when people are not engaged in the performance.
5. Let the performer know if you enjoyed the performance. In smaller venues, it might be possible to wait for the performer(s) and give kudos in person. In larger ones, there might be an email, or other contact option, where you could give your feedback.
Now, get out there, enjoy and be a good member!
